A message from your authentic Self

“Am I living in a way which is deeply satisfying to me, and which truly expresses me?”

(Carl R. Rogers)

In our society, there are many myths we hold onto as absolute truths. One of the most persistent is the belief that anxiety is our enemy — something to fight, suppress, or avoid at all costs. Like anything else that makes us uncomfortable, we try to push it away, numb it, or silence it.

But what if we’ve been looking at anxiety all wrong? What if anxiety isn’t here to torment us, but to guide us?

Perhaps the most unbearable part of anxiety is not the feeling itself, but the way it grips us — physically, mentally, and emotionally. That racing heart, the tight chest, the restless mind. It feels like something is wrong with us. But anxiety, in its raw form, is not a flaw or a malfunction. It’s a signal. A voice from within, trying to get our attention.

Anxiety is not our enemy. It’s a friend knocking on our door, carrying a message of

authenticity.

The Message Beneath the Discomfort

In countless therapy sessions, I’ve witnessed something powerful: when people turn toward their anxiety instead of away from it, something shifts. A message begins to emerge — not from fear, but from their deeper self. The self that knows what it truly needs. The self that holds their desires, gifts, and potential.

We are made of what lies at our core. And when we stray too far from that inner truth, anxiety often shows up — not to punish us, but to remind us. To help us come back home.

Anxiety as a Compass, Not a Curse

So often, anxiety signals that we’re veering off course — away from what truly matters to us. We might be stuck in roles, relationships, or routines that don’t honor who we really are. And the farther we drift, the louder anxiety becomes. It’s trying to tell us something essential:

You’re losing touch with yourself.

In therapy, we create the space to listen to that message. Not to silence the anxiety, but to understand what it’s pointing to — and to start realigning with our authenticity.

A Return to Wholeness

Anxiety is not something to conquer. It’s something to understand. When we treat it

as a messenger — not a monster — we open the door to profound self-awareness. In that space, we begin to reconnect. To realign. To return.

And in doing so, we don’t just ease anxiety — we begin to live more fully, more freely, and more authentically.

Listening to the Signal

If you find a moment of quiet — a place that feels like yours — close your eyes. Let your breath find its rhythm. And instead of resisting the anxiety, try this:

Welcome it. Ask it:

Where have I lost myself?

What have I failed to honor about who I am? What am I moving away from?

How has this relationship, job, or situation pulled me out of alignment?

These are not easy questions. But they are the ones that bring us back to ourselves.

So the next time anxiety knocks… don’t shut the door.

Invite it in. Listen. And ask: What truth are you trying to tell me?